on being a woman.

So – based on my recent research – books, TV, and media seem to portray women in one of four stereotypes. Let’s use Sex and the City characters, just because they’re familiar to most.

There’s the sweet, naïve one who believes in romance. She is conservative, safe, believes in true love, and will one day – after a few bouts of nominal heartbreak – find it. Charlotte.

And then we have the façade of confidence – the woman who sleeps with men and treats them as though they are disposable. She’s jaded, hard, and gives really great blowjobs. Samantha.

Funny how successful women are portrayed as cold and bitchy. Dressed in drab, beige clothes, has enough money to hire a nanny to look after the baby she wants to raise solo, Miranda is strong…but not really. Hard candy shell, but soft and gooey on the inside.

Finally, Carrie. That’s it. She’s the friend who fixes and heals and supports and guides and does it all while looking really awesome and having consecutive great hair days. She is pretty easy to like. Just the right amount of smart and helpful and funny and girly. Is kind of annoying.

So I’ve watched the show, and I’ve watched some chick flicks, and I’ve even had my eyes opened recently listening to friends who just may fall into one of the character categories above.

And if you know me, you’ll know I’m not at all the lady who’s into the stuff…the shopping or the gossiping or the man bashing or the love seeking or….


After careful consideration, I’m the Carrie Bradshaw. Yup. I’m THAT one. Hopefully not as long-faced, but I do have the lazy eye…

I’ve ranted and raged and complained about that girl. The one that is a bit of a dreamer, a bit artistic, who seems to drop into situations where she falls unwittingly in love with really interesting men. Fsssh, so ridiculous.

Now, in my mid-30s and feeling somewhat confident in life, I feel okay being typecast. I sort of like identifying with a character. Makes my own crazy life seem a lot less….crazy. Someone wrote this – it’s a script – so it must have happened before. This is comforting.

I guess I’m just putting it out there. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not going to start reading books about knitting clubs and shopaholics, but I will continue being this woman who is comfortable in her own skin, who won’t let a few crazy life experiences get her down.

“As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going.”

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6 thoughts on “on being a woman.

  1. djcharlye says:

    Yay! I’m the first to like your post. Love reading your blogs, you have to write more often Carrie! Everyone gets a little lost along the way. It’s when you finally feel completely comfortable in your own skin that you know everything will work out in the end…..it may be a little bumpy, but the script’s been written and you just have to weather the trail. [Get it]? 😉

  2. alundeberg says:

    I love Sex and the City, but I’ve never been able to typecast myself into one character. I am a bit of Carrie, Miranda, and Charlotte (and like Samantha since I’m blonde). The girls are great because they represent the many sides of us, but if it came to men I am hands-down Carrie with Mr. Big. I rooted for him from day one. However, please stay strong and do not ever go down the knitting/shopaholic route– I’ve taken that path and it’s not good.

  3. Holly Goddyn Photography says:

    Im so glad to know you! I love reading what’s on your mind. You are quite frankly one of the most interesting and intelligent woman I know! Hugs my girl….hugs 😉

  4. Holly Goddyn Photography says:

    Im so glad to know you! I love reading what’s on your mind. You are quite frankly one of the most interesting, insightful and intelligent woman I know! Hugs my girl….hugs 😉

  5. Holly says:

    I totally agree with alundeberg. The sex in the city characters represent the differents sides of each of us. I’ve always said that this was ONE woman when watching the show.

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